Comments on: Am I wrong for remodeling my kitchen and not attending a friends destination wedding?

By: newly preg

newly preg — Mon, 15 Dec 2008 18:02:58 +0000

Unless she is your dearest and closest friend, then no. She is being petty and she should be understanding of your grief and hardships. Actually, you did the right thing by bowing out of a joyous occasion during your mourning. Don’t let it weigh on your conscience any longer.

By: cindra

cindra — Sat, 13 Dec 2008 03:26:07 +0000

Well, you’re not wrong for not wanting to spend alot of money going on a destination wedding. And, your not wrong with preferring to spend your hard earned money on things you need rather than on a vacation. But, it does seem unusual to be spending money remodeling a part of your home when your fiances are so tight. I mean if I lost my job, I wouldn’t be remodeling any part of my home, unless I absolutely had to for some unusual reason (i.e. selling the house). So, I think this unusual behavior caught the attention of your friend and probably came off as looking like financially you appeared OK enough to be able to go. Sort of like a person who looses their job, then goes out and buys a fur coat, then complains to others about being broke. I know it’s not a good analogy, but I think you get the drift.

By: smartypants

smartypants — Fri, 12 Dec 2008 18:39:32 +0000

what iin the world happened to your family, that is so sad. your friend of course wants you there, i get it, but she is the one who chose the far away wedding.

By: Jessica B

Jessica B — Thu, 11 Dec 2008 10:09:01 +0000

You are in the right…. Hopefully your friend will come to her/his senses.

By: peppersham

peppersham — Mon, 08 Dec 2008 16:58:10 +0000

No,enjoy your new kitchen.Your friend is not much of a friend.

By: Jen

Jen — Mon, 08 Dec 2008 01:24:18 +0000

No, you aren’t wrong. You need a remodeled kitchen, and the kitchen is going to last a lot longer than a vacation where you’ll be stressing over how much money you are spending rather than enjoying the event for what it is… you friend’s wedding.

I think you made the right choice. If she continues to act the way she does, she isn’t a real friend.

By: bountifiles

bountifiles — Fri, 05 Dec 2008 20:45:29 +0000

No you’re not wrong. My sister had 22 people and paid for everyone’s everything for 3 days. People who have destination weddings know and understand that everyone has a real life to consider first.

By: OZZIEGAL

OZZIEGAL — Thu, 04 Dec 2008 22:33:18 +0000

first of all i am sorry for your loss of family members and secondly that you lost your job! its a hard time for sure.

as for your friend being upset, she doesn’t have the right to be upset about it, in fact, when choosing destination weddings people are choosing to leave their friends and family behind. brides and grooms need to consider the fact that a great many people simply can not afford the cost of airfare, hotels, eating out, on top of a wedding gift – not to mention trying to get time off work!
so even if you had paid for labor for your kitchen, it is your home, your life, and none of her business what you do with your hard-earned cash.
you are not wrong, in fact, i would even go so far as to say if it is all that important to her, she should pay your way!
she should have thought this through a little more and had her wedding closer to home. meanwhile she owes you an apology for being so childish!

By: sunshine_2867

sunshine_2867 — Wed, 03 Dec 2008 06:32:51 +0000

Absolutely not! Your friend chose to we away … your kitchen remodel will probably last longer than her nuptials!

By: lindsiekaye

lindsiekaye — Tue, 02 Dec 2008 15:03:35 +0000

Of course not. 9 times out of 10 people do not attend destination weddings.
The reason being money and work. Your family and home should take presidence, and a good friend would understand this. If she’s that mad, I would have a quite sit down and explain that your kitchen got the much needed attention it has been waiting for, and unfortunitly you and your hubby couldn’t afford to attend.
If she still doesn’t understand, then maybe she’s got other issuses on her heart.

Good luck to you and your friendship with her. And good luck in the kitchen remodeling.